April 15, 2010

A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world.  It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path. --A. Christie

These days my goals are to stay positive, to stop walking around with a chip on my shoulder and to just let the little things go.*  My blessings far outnumber the difficulties of daily life.  But that doesn't mean each day doesn't bring  problems that pile up. 

Originally this post was a narrative about a negative comment made by a colleague regarding my parenting status.  I wrote the entire thing, righteously explaining my indignance at her public remark.  I saved the draft, read it the next day, then decided to highlight the text, click "cut" and get rid of the angry words.  You know what?  That felt really good.  The anger disappeared with the characters on the screen. 

There's a lesson in there about letting go of hurt feelings. About changing what you can and ignoring the rest.  I'm not sure I can always be the bigger person.  I'm not sure I can always look on the bright side.  But I can try.

Having two sweet sons helps.  A lot.  Henry now comes running to give me a hug and say, "I love you, too" before I can even greet him.  He walks in front of me as I push his brother's stroller and I watch as he talks to each robin he sees.  Moments like those belong to me.  I need to make room for them.

Liam snuggles against me after his bath, laughs heartily at our private jokes and is one of the smartest babies I have ever met.  I'm in awe of him.  I'm still amazed he got here in one piece.  I never want to take for granted the miracle that is my youngest son.

I'm off to savor the moments this weekend.  (And to put Henry back in bed--he just snuck downstairs!)

*Also, to stop shopping at Walmart but that's another post.


  1. What a beautifully written stream of thought. I'm sorry for the unkind words of another, but am so inspired by your ability to erase the negative.
    Your sons are awesome. How sweet that Henry is saying 'I love you, too', that's such a great feeling. And there is nothing like snuggling with your baby when they're freshly bathed.
    Those are the things that make being a mom, any mom, the best job in the world.
    Enjoy those moments this weekend.

  2. Wow. You are my hero. There are SO MANY times I wish I would have selected text and hit "Cut." You make it sound so much easier than it ever is for me. Bravo. Great post.

  3. Isn't it crazy how sometimes people can be so hurtful...whether they mean to be or not? I follow a blog and the blogger has posted some stuff lately I don't really agree with...I thought about commenting but decided not to because it wasn't worth my energy to defend myself (even though it wasn't anything to do with me personally...just what I think about the topic) and tried not to let her bother me. Sometimes it's super hard to let go of what other people say. I wish I could be less worried about what other people think sometimes. Sometimes it doesn't bother me and other times it really can. I think you are a great mom though and you should ignore what anyone else is saying! :)

  4. I am sorry you have been hurt by bad comments from an insensitive person. You are a wonderful caring mom. Your kids reflect your love for them. They are mesmerizing. Don't allow anyone to hurt you that way. I learnt a lesson from a mentor once: "Always know where and whom the comment is coming from..". It is so true! Who knows if that person is envious, or just having a bad day, or they are definitely unhappy about life! When I hear bad comments from others, I think: "it is not my schtick, it is theirs..." and voila! The problem is gone!
    Enjoy your weekend with those two adorable ones!