June 11, 2014
I'm a believer!
There are several reasons this has worked so well. First, it removed all the emotions surrounding discipline. When something untoward happens I don't have to get angry, hurt or resentful--I just have to get up and change the color of a block. Secondly, the structure and visuals build scaffolding to help the boys achieve better behavior. With great hindsight, I realize that I was expecting my children to behave but not giving them the tools to do so. It was as if I were on the roof of a building yelling down to them, "Get up here. Get up here, right now!" without providing them a ladder. Now they have a ladder and can choose to climb as high as they wish. They can even see when things are getting wobbly and they need to steady themselves. Finally, the consistency is welcome. Each day's expectations are the same as yesterday. Success builds more success.
I think Liam's expression above says it all. Today he was on green all day!