Then, as if kids being mean to kids wasn't bad enough, I overheard Henry telling his brother "You know, God doesn't like people who have babies when they are not married." My heart fell as I listened to him. I wonder if I've made a big mistake sending him to a church school that isn't affiliated with our church. (The United Church of Christ believes that God likes all parents.)
I have A LOT to sort out. It would be very tedious to read if I posted everything here tonight--the thought of changing schools pushes a lot of buttons for me. Not only do I have to figure out what the realistic options are, I have to think of the long term effects. I also have to separate what is my issue and what is something that truly affects the boys' day to day education. I changed schools seven times before graduation. I swore my own children would never experience that type of upheaval.
While all this is swirling around my mind, I started reading Masterminds and Wingmen. It's by the same author as Queenbees and Wannabes, Rosalind Wiseman. I knew this was exactly the book I needed right now when I read this,
...it's much easier for me to think through a problem that's not about my own children. When one of my boys is involved, my initial reaction is to get angry, disappointed, frustrated or anxious and to think of the worst possible outcomes.and a few paragraphs later,
Sometimes our love and worry stops us from providing the help our boys need...parental anxiety can repel boys and come between them and their parents.Now with seventy pages read and many post-its and highlighted lines, I'm still anxious. But through the book's anecdotes I'm finding I'm not alone. There may be some things I can change about the way we interact at home which will help my boys out "there" in the scary world. It won't be easy though. A lot of what is advised is not what an overprotective mama wants to hear. For example, I don't think I'm supposed to call it a "scary world".
Yeah, I've got a lot of reading to do.